feminism… The Muslim woman’s relationship with sex….. shame, guilt, respectability politics and how we circumvent pleasure to reach chastity and sexuality in one smooth orgasm! 12 May 202212 May 2022 When I was a little girl I was told that sex is categorically bad. I was told that it is condemnable under all circumstances. Its many vices that included masturbation…
feminism… When a woman says “I’ve never heard this happening to a woman before”, here’s what I think…. 5 May 20225 May 2022 The recent uprising on abortion bans and what it means for women have allowed many of us to bask in our glory of righteousness and sanctimony some more. After all,…
feminism… I wouldn’t be here if….. 21 Apr 202221 Apr 2022 A lot of people ask me if I knew my husband before I got married. I sometimes lie, sometimes lash out with the truth and sometimes leave enough nuggets of…
feminism… Heteropatriarchy and how it strengthens itself….. 14 Apr 202214 Apr 2022 For purposes of this blog, I’ll keep it short. After all, what hasn’t been said about patriarchy and masculinity on here that I would document now. But it does baffle…
feminism… The dating apostle! 1 Apr 202210 Apr 2022 While my own dating résumé is probably nothing to write home about, it’s not because of any negligence on my part, let me assure you of that. In a world…
burnout… My age and the havoc it can wreak. 31 Mar 202231 Mar 2022 “How old are you, dear?” The oldest of the three women asked, her yellowing teeth bared, reminding me of barracudas in the Australian reefs. How old am I, I stare…
consumerism… Silent feminists! 23 Dec 202123 Dec 2021 I’m at a convention for engineers. These are all Pakistani women. With their nice Chanel and Hermes bags. They look wealthy. Age is defied by them. When you have money,…
feminism… Why do women return from the airport? 15 Dec 20215 Jan 2022 Imagine getting into a romantic relationship. Then going through abuse in it. Second-guessing it. Trying to make it work. Turning around and walking back into it numerous times. Hoping against…
burnout… “Who’s your daddy?” Brown women who look for men who are not like their fathers. 8 Nov 20219 Nov 2021 As I tucked my kids in and turned to leave the room I saw my husband standing in the doorway. He had a serenely weird smile on his face, something…
feminism… “GETTING OVER THE HISTORY OF MY EXISTENCE”. 21 Oct 2021 What does “getting over someone or something” mean when a woman is told that? Why does the entire life of a woman is spent being a revisionist historian who erases…